Ever get off the crutches too early? You start doing compensating behaviors (like the way you changed the route you took to your desk so the hand rails would be on the correct side.) You change your stance, you change your gait, and then things heal wrong. You start compensating to the point where you prevent healing.
This happens on emotional and mental arenas as well. You wake up, trip on the covers and bonk your toe on a chair. Then you say to yourself, “Well, it’s going to be one of THOSE days!” Why would you set yourself up like that? It’s emotionally and mentally safer that way. You’re expecting things to go wrong so that when they do, you pat yourself on the back and say, “Yup, you called it right! It IS one of THOSE days!” What if instead, you said, “Well I got the worst part of my day over with and it’s not even 7:30 AM! Woohoo!” What if something else went wrong during the day? What if it WAS worse than smacking your toe?! You’d be WRONG in your ASSESSMENT! Has anyone heard your assessment? How would anyone else know? Ahhhh, you go around telling everyone what a horrible day it has turned out to be today and it’s not even 10 AM. Why? Because misery loves company.
How about those of us that say, “Well I’m certainly klutzy today.” That gives us license to spill the coffee on that goofball in accounting that thinks he’s clever and is always trying to be witty in the break room. It gives us an excuse to knock all the papers off Mr. Never-makes-a-mistake’s desk so he has to put them alllllllll back in order again. It gives us permission to be mean and blame it on our klutziness as exhibited in the privacy of our bedroom earlier that morning. Wait… No one saw that. Hmmmm. You could make up a story about your short comings and have a ball taking out all those people that annoy you!
- I didn’t get my morning coffee, I’m grumpy. We can tease and yell and complain all day!
- I couldn’t find my keys this morning, I’m losing everything! Like the report we didn’t do or the party funds we might use to buy lunch today…
- I’m so distracted today! I can’t focus on …squirrel! That allows us the freedom to stare out the window during the meeting, and interrupt the blabbermouth as he regales everyone with his boring golf stories.
But see? This makes you the annoying person in the office. It is fun, but it isn’t right. Do not use a single characteristic to paint your whole day. Do not ascribe a temporary shortfall in your abilities to a fatal flaw in your character. So when you stub your toe, just say OUCH. If you don’t get your coffee, drink some at work or on the way. If no coffee makes you grumpy, you have much bigger problems. If you lose your keys, be extra attentive to your belongings. If you’re distracted, go to the bathroom and collect your thoughts so you can refocus. Because eventually, if you have that many fatal flaws, and destiny is against you, you will be hit by a bus.