Saw a stupid video on Facebook, and it’s stayed with me all day. 9 year old kid gets bullied on the play ground. He starts beating on the kid, and the teacher intervenes. The kid is in the heat of the moment I guess, and hits the teacher. I know of a 9 year old that was so big that he could pick up his foster dad, and his mental condition was such that when he had his mad on, he felt no pain. The kid in the video, however, was not one of those big kids. He did not have a condition that masked his pain when he had his mad on. How hard can a 9 year old hit? Yes, it would probably hurt. He was not schooled in the martial arts, so there would be no broken bones or split lips. It shouldn’t have made the news.
The parents videoed their son being handcuffed and led away by police. No sign of injured teacher leaving in ambulance, no sign of injured bully leaving in an ambulance… Obviously, the parent of the young felon (assault and battery) weren’t going to video the ambulances taking away the victims of the vicious 9 year old, but the follow-up by the news reporters did not mention any hospitalization either.
Let’s hear it for Zero Tolerance. How many of you have been in school yard fights? If you won, were you arrested? If you lost did you sue? How many of you were bullies? How many of your victims fought back? Would you have continued to bully people that fought back? The #Me Too was for all the people that had been sexually assaulted or somehow associated with a sexual assault–you were the boss that fired the assaulter, or the counselor that turned them in. It might be easier to identify the bullies than the victims because I think in this country, NO ONE would admit to being a bully, and yet 102% of the population would identify with the victim of bullying. The only conclusion is that there were 5 boys and 3 girls that were moved from school to school all over the area just to bully those who didn’t fit in (meaning the rest of us.) The point is this: weren’t all these bullying incidents handled in house? Little Donnie and Little Tracy were sent to the principal’s office and sat in detention for a few days. The rest of the school population went about their business and the victims tried not to NOT fit in so they wouldn’t continue to be bullied when the miscreants were released from detention.
THERE WAS NO NEED TO HAVE THE POLICE COME INTO THE SCHOOL. The kid didn’t have a gun or a knife or anything else that was identified as a weapon.
I am old. I remember when they landscaped Europe. (Oooh I love fjords! Put some more in!) When we had a serious incident with bullying, namely fighting, the brat(s) went to the principal’s office and he or they got 10 whacks from the Scurbanian Killer…a brush with the bristles removed. It hurt like the dickens, but it was immediate. There were no appeals, no law suits. The parents didn’t rush in to demand the principal’s job and slap punitive damages on the principal, the teacher, the victim, the victim’s parents, and the school board. It was assumed that if you got the Scurbanian Killer at school, you were going to be grounded for a month and get a spanking from your parents when you got home too. And everyone in the neighborhood would look at you and shame you for your bad behavior. Then some doofus decided that children were people. That they had rights–the same as adults. But they also had no responsibilities.
Wait? What? Adults are adults because we have learned that rights come with responsibilities. Privileges are not guaranteed. If you give children rights, and don’t teach them responsibilities, how do they learn? If you think that a kindergartner or a 1st grader can learn the same responsibilities that an adult has learned, I have a bridge I could sell you. Same for 9 year-olds. The bully needs to learn that if he does bully someone and that one fights back, it’s all on him. The victim must learn to stand up for himself and fight back if need be to protect himself. There are responsibilities for the teachers as well. If you get hit when breaking up a fight, crap happens. Both students should have been sent to the principal and the situation handled IN HOUSE. The faculty and staff and administration of the schools have given up their autonomy in ruling the school. They have given up their responsibilities of in loco parentis and turned it over to the police. And we, as parents and grandparents, have allowed this! How stupid is this? Are we teaching children how to be adults? NO! We’re teaching children how to game the system.
Get the law and politics OUT of the school system! Treat children as children and then teach them how to be adults.
I now have a 9-yr-old grandson with ADHD issues. He is almost as tall as I am and very strong. If there were a bully in his school, they wouldn’t even try to bully him. In fact, if there was a bully in his school, he’d be the first to jump on him and protect the victim. He has a very short fuse. It wouldn’t take much for him to actually be the bully, but I don’t believe he’s crossed that line. He might be able to do some damage to me, but I am an adult. I can protect myself. I can also control myself and refrain from smacking him back, but I have had to yell at him to get his attention back. I would never have called the police on him had he been a victim of bullying from a 5th or 6th grader. Like I said in the original post, it would have been handled in-house.