I’ve had it. I’m tired of hearing people criticizing Gillette. The dent made in the bottom line of all those people who will not buy Gillette razors is minuscule. They complain about the message: Toxic masculinity. Can we agree that people fighting at Iwo Jima and Iraq and Viet Nam were not examples of toxic masculinity? Can we agree that men that like to hunt and target shoot are not examples of toxic masculinity? Can we agree that you don’t have to be male to be toxic? Most of the people I see getting all up in arms about the ad are posting memes that have NOTHING to do with toxicity!
Remember that song, “Bad Boys?” Bad bad bad bad boys, make me feel so good. Boys will be boys. There’s something dangerous about a guy that doesn’t follow the mores of the culture. In the song, the girl is attracted to this. How long do you think she’d be attracted if he decided to rape her? How long would she go along with his rule breaking when he started cheating on her? If he’s a jerk in one situation, could he be a jerk in others? OF COURSE! What is toxic? We’ve determined that gentlemen don’t rape, they don’t beat up women, they play by the Marquess of Queensbury rules… (thank you Wikipedia)
- To be a fair stand-up boxing match in a 24-foot ring, or as near that size as practicable.
- No wrestling or hugging allowed.
- The rounds to be of three minutes’ duration, and one minute’s time between rounds.
- If either man falls through weakness or otherwise, he must get up unassisted, 10 seconds to be allowed him to do so, the other man meanwhile to return to his corner, and when the fallen man is on his legs the round is to be resumed and continued until the three minutes have expired. If one man fails to come to the scratch in the 10 seconds allowed, it shall be in the power of the referee to give his award in favour of the other man.
- A man hanging on the ropes in a helpless state, with his toes off the ground, shall be considered down.
- No seconds or any other person to be allowed in the ring during the rounds.
- Should the contest be stopped by any unavoidable interference, the referee to name the time and place as soon as possible for finishing the contest; so that the match must be won and lost, unless the backers of both men agree to draw the stakes.
- The gloves to be fair-sized boxing gloves of the best quality and new.
- Should a glove burst, or come off, it must be replaced to the referee’s satisfaction.
- A man on one knee is considered down and if struck is entitled to the stakes.
- That no shoes or boots with spikes or sprigs (wire nails) be allowed.
- The contest in all other respects to be governed by revised London Prize Ring Rules.
These made sure the fighting was a sport, and not a murder with spectators. King Arthur came up with the rules of Chivalry according to legend. How to treat people with respect was of great import! But if you consider this, remember that there would not have had to have been rules written down if people were currently behaving that way. If people are already stopping at the corner, you don’t need a stop sign. Why do you suppose they had to have the 10 commandments written in STONE? Because someone with a stylus and ink could have added and changed those rules? Most certainly.
Boys WILL be boys. They fight, they wrestle, they like to join gangs to give them a feeling of belonging and power. They like to exercise that power over weaker opponents–male or female. They have to be TAUGHT to be men. Men treat others with respect. Men help people in trouble. Men will do what is needed to support and protect their families. Men have to teach boys not to bully. Men have to teach boys to think with their heads when dealing with women. That was one of the goals for Boy Scouts: teaching boys how to be men.
Girls will be girls. Wait. What? Girls are never toxic. *stands on sarcasm button* They fight with words, and they can also get physical. They can be just as mean as boys. They can manipulate girls and boys and adults, and that gives these girls a feeling of power. Some manipulate with the choice of clothing they wear; some by the connections they have with groups, and some by sheer physical prowess. They need to be taught by women how to treat others, how to help, how not to bully.
Do you suppose that if men didn’t react to women dressing provocatively they’d start dressing differently? Do you think that if no one reacted to gossip on FaceBook or Instagram or in study hall, they might not gossip? Women dress for everyone but themselves. They spend 2 hours on their hair, make-up, and clothes to go to Walmart for birthday cards? What sense does that make?
I once went with some Girl Scouts on a backpacking trip. My troop of girls packed their backpacks with clothes, tools, camping dishes and stuff. When we got to the site, we had our tents up and everything set up in a matter of minutes. In visiting the girls from the other troops, we saw curling irons and make-up. There were no mirrors at the site, and no electricity. In fact, there was a two-holer for the toilet, no shower, no bathtub, no sink. There weren’t any other groups on this trip. Who were they dressing up for? City folk.
So if girls dress for everyone else, why do they dress the way they dress and then walk past a construction site and are offended by what the guys say? Isn’t that precisely why they dressed that way? Now if the guys are toxic, they’d catcall a grandmother in a sweat suit. In fact there was a rape case in the UK where the prosecutor didn’t pick up on that aspect. The defense counselor claimed that the girl wanted to have sex because she was wearing a thong. If it were true that the girl only wore the thong because she wanted sex, how would the RAPIST know what she was wearing for underwear? So the prosecutor and the defendant both displayed toxic masculinity. What if the grandmother in the sweat suit was wearing a thong?
I think that instead of worrying about being politically correct, people should think about having good manners! A gentleman doesn’t make cat calls. A lady doesn’t engage in gossip for the sole purpose of destroying a rival. Parents watching kids fight break them up and show them how to arm wrestle. They don’t sit on the sidelines with their grills and say “Boys will be boys will be boys…” over and over. I do not know a single man that would do that!
So there are 2 motivations for someone to be a jerk. The first is to gain power in their circle of friends or tribe. The second is…because they can. They have power and they choose to use and abuse that power because it feels good and no one will call them on the carpet for that behavior. Gillette just called them on the carpet. What surprises me is the vehemence that is being unloaded on Gillette. The arguments make no sense and a great many times are like that riddle. (as seen on the Tick, an old TV series)
Q: If you’re driving down the ocean in your jet ski, and the wheel falls off, does it still take the same amount of pancakes to cover a doghouse?
A: Purple because ice cream has no bones.
We must end toxic masculinity, and toxic femininity. You can’t take my guns. See? The 2 sentences have nothing to do with each other. Neither does the picture of the veterans from some war with a slogan that indicates that their toxic masculinity is why we don’t speak German or Japanese. Also makes no sense.
Toxic masculinity is when they use their guns to take over a bar and steal all the booze. Toxic masculinity is when, after the armed forces take the village, they rape all the women and kill the men and boys. So all males are NOT toxic, and neither are all females. It doesn’t have to be a rape culture or a toxic patriarchy. We actually can control that. STOP BEING JERKS.